#Radio silence for 3 months cracked#

Like a puzzle waiting to be solved, if you have gone dark on him, he will want to break down your wall and see if he can get a response from you.Ī sign your ex is teasing you is if he communicates with you, you respond, and he drops the communication completely all of a sudden. This is particularly likely if you’ve gone no contact with him or have been ignoring his communication. If he’s flaky and difficult to get into the same room with you, he’s probably not as sincere as a man who has come back after realizing he made a mistake by leaving you for someone else.

Once he returns, watch him closely to see what he does. Often men I coach through getting back together really do realize they made a mistake and genuinely want you back after doing this.įrom through my computer screen, it’s impossible to tell you for sure.Įither way, men are usually intentional about seeing you, being around you and admitting they were wrong if they really do want you back.

#Radio silence for 3 months cracked#

Once he realizes that “sowing his oats” wasn’t everything it was cracked up to be, he comes crawling back hoping for an ego boost or potential reconciliation.Īnd, while I do mention this in a brutally honest way, he can be genuine about this.

This happens most after a long-term relationship falls apart.Īfter licking his wounds post-breakup, then doing his “triumphant” victory lap around the singles scene, it turns out to not be as glamorous as he had hoped. Whether you had actual unfinished business or not, often a guy will circle back around to a lukewarm relationship after he gave someone else a try and it didn’t work out. This reason why men come back after months and years away truly sucks, but it’s actually pretty common. He finished dating that other woman who he dumped you for. It’s human, but if you’re on the receiving end of it– confusing anyway. Just being reminded of someone is enough to make you think about them, which can cause people to reach out. It’s even more frustrating because usually this happens right after you’ve really made an effort to remove your ex from your life once and for all.Īnd unfortunately, this can be what makes us think of getting in touch with him months later, in the same confusing way guys sometimes reach out after months of no contact. This also happens with family members, acquaintances you haven’t seen for a while, etc. I usually think to myself, “gah, I just stopped thinking about him! Thanks so much!” (sarcasm intended). One of his friends asked about you.Įver been out somewhere with a friend and out of the blue they ask about your ex?ĭoes this annoy you as much as it does me? Men will also use this as an excuse to talk to you after a breakup when they ACTUALLY miss you and want another chance at the relationship. This is so confusing because he might also want you back or it could be a total fluke. Like an itch that needs scratching, something will make him think of you and then all of a sudden, there he is, saying “hey… what’s up?” You know how some song or smell will randomly remind you of an ex? This reason is usually subconscious and for sure, unflattering to you, but it’s a really common reason why he’ll text you after months or years of no contact. If your breakup was one-sided, say, he knows that you wanted to keep the relationship going but he didn’t, it can simply feel good to reach out to you and remind himself that someone (anyone) cares for him. It definitely wasn’t a love connection, so my best guess about why he texted after months was that he wanted to see if I would even respond at all and… see reason number 1. In between non- love connection dates, James and I shared American Psycho jokes over text message.Īfter a short time, he disappeared completely without warning- only to reappear six months later with guess what… an American Psycho inside joke. He might say something funny or make an inside joke that you both shared.įor example, at one point I met this guy named James. Often his actions aren’t much more premeditated than a simple idle thought about you, then subsequent text message. He had a random brain fart and wondered how you were. If he’s bored and wants to get some, you’re a potential possibility, especially if he can feel you out over text message from the comfort of his couch on Sunday night. It’s a basic motivation, but it’s often easier for him to seduce someone he’s already been with than someone new. Here are 8 totally frustrating reasons why he randomly texts after months– either a breakup or complete disappearing act.

Usually his later contact occurs the moment… no the very SECOND… that you’ve finally moved on and really quit thinking about him (I wish there was a way to fake it, but you can’t). One of the more puzzling behaviors of the hot blooded male is his sudden disappearance (“ ghosting” or “ pulling a Houdini”) and subsequent lack of future contact.